A Life Well Lived

Scott Kronick

For this week’s Monday Morning Mojo I am sharing a eulogy I gave at the funeral of my former elementary school teacher, drivers ed instructor, lifelong soccer coach and very good friend. His name is Paul Dresser and I have featured him numerous times in Monday Morning Mojo passages given the influence he has had on my life. He is the friend and neighbor everyone dreams of having and represents the best of humanity. Here is one news report from my home town about his passing.

And here is the eulogy I was honored to give this past week in Flint, Michigan.

Paul Dresser Eulogy

I am incredibly honored and humbled to be representing the so many non-family members who knew and loved Mr. Dresser, Mr. D, PD, Paul, Coach. Actually, non-family members is not an entirely accurate description because anyone who came in contact with PD instantly felt like they were part of his family.

I am comforted to be here at the Church of the Nazarene with all of you. I thought we were going to need something like the Silverdome to accommodate the many people who wish to pay their respects to Mr. Dresser.

I know many of us are saddened by PD’s passing, but there is an irony here, because I believe we have all been blessed knowing PD. I feel sorry for those who never really got to know him.

Everyone Has A Personal Story

The thing about PD was this: everyone has their story of how he touched their lives. Whether you had him as an elementary school teacher, a driver’s education instructor, a coach, or you knew him as a church member, hunting buddy, or just an overall friend, he had an imprint on people’s lives the likes of no one else I know.

Since news spread about his passing many people have shared some of these stories online. One person talked about the distinct memory of Mr. D being the one teacher who reached out to him to chat at a young age when this student’s father had passed. Another guy wrote about skipping driver’s ed one day and PD drove over to his house and pulled him out of bed so he could pass.

One former teammate, who is very much an introvert, called me with his story. He told me Mr. Dresser was teaching yoga in elementary school when yoga wasn’t even in style. This student’s mom was into yoga and taught him some positions. He shared those with Mr. Dresser and Mr. D put him in the role to lead the class. This guy told me he couldn’t believe someone took that much interest in something he had to say as a kid, and he remembers how much of a huge confidence booster it was for him at an early age.

I reached out to Greg Robertson for his views about PD. Greg was a hero to us all. He was the first guy to excel under Paul’s influence to play college and professional soccer. And while I can’t incorporate all of what he wrote to me, this reflects his core message.

“Scott, so many people we’re blessed by his life because the providence of God placed him in a role where he would impact virtually thousands of young and old alike. For me, Paul’s involvement in my life as an unmotivated schoolkid who was able to fulfill his dream of playing professional soccer and ultimately graduate from college was only part of the story, although that is certainly an important part.

But, more importantly is that Paul’s role in my life represents one of several critical milestones that I know now were divinely designed. That when examined in conjunction with other significant influences help solidify my faith, by providing clear evidence and making me certain that God is alive and active and that faith is not blind. I thank God for Paul Dresser. What a privilege it has been to have known him.

We all have such stories and if you look at the posts they come from a cross section of men, women, race, religion and more.

PD Was A Master At Life Lessons

The thing about Mr. D and his teaching methods was the overall lasting influence he had. Of all my educational experiences, I remember few, if any, academic lessons. Yet in lessons related to life, how to treat people, respect, hard work, Mr. Dresser prepared many of us at a young age about how to approach life.

He was my hero from a young age. I remember him doing things with the soccer ball we couldn’t even imagine. He introduced us to dodgeball and played with us. He had us jet around on those mini scooters playing kickball and more.

His imprint on what he did for Flint soccer cannot be understated. He impacted thousands of people and gave respectability and fame to Flint as a soccer powerhouse.

For all the time we all spent on the soccer field, one memory keeps coming back to me. There was a troubled, special needs kid who used to walk around the field when we practiced. I keep remembering how PD embraced this kid. The student respected Paul, and Paul made him feel part of the team. I just remember how PD made him feel, and Coach Dresser taught us all a lesson at the same time.

A Life Well Lived

That’s the thing about PD. He made you feel better by being around him. In these later years, I have loved hanging around Doc and PD. They embody what I consider life success. If wealth is measured by the quality of a person’s relationships, PD and Doc are among the wealthiest people of our generation.

Jennifer, Chad, Emma and Connor; Jeff, Stephanie, Jackson and Dylan, thank you for sharing your dad and grandfather with us. Boy, do I know how much he was proud of each of you. Doc, we all know such greatness comes in pairs, and for him to do what he did for everyone required a trusting, caring and loving partner.

I really don’t know where the time has gone. I still remember Jennifer and Jeff running around as children, very much a part of our childhood. Doc you never age, and alongside his positivity about life was always your smile.  You are forever young.

I don’t think this is going to get any easier for anyone who loved him, but we can be comforted in the memories, and in knowing that he is looking down on us paving the path he set for us years ago. I think he would want little fuss from all of us…just to get on with things and live a happy, good and kind life.

PD’s Impact On My Life

I have been thinking a lot about Paul’s impact on my own life, and what made him so special.  There are really three lessons that keep coming to mind.

  1. PD was a fantastic listener. Like no one else I know. He was always present and focused on what you were saying and always made you feel comfortable.
  2. PD was never judgmental. Not only did he never have anything bad to say about anyone, he also didn’t care what gender you were, race, religion, economic status – he treated everyone equally and made sure everyone’s views were heard. He was priestly in a way.  He made people feel so comfortable you were always willing to share whatever was on your mind with him.
  3. PD was always in service of everyone he met. He was the guy who paved the snow from everyone’s driveways before they would awake. That is just a metaphor for how he lived his life. It was never about PD. It was about everyone around him. He paid it forward for all of us, and we should do the same to honor him.

If you will indulge me, I would like to close by sharing a poem by Linda Ellis.  It is called “The Dash” and goes like this.

“I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning to the end. 

 He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following dates with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years. 

 For that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth, and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we owe, the cars…the house…the cash.  What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

 So think about this long and hard, are there things you’d like to change?  For you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged. 

 To be less quick to anger and show appreciation more, and love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile, remembering that this special dash might only last a little while. 

So when your eulogy is being read with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash?”

 I think we all know how PD lived his Dash.  Doc, Jennifer, Jeff and your families, you are surrounded by people who loved PD and love all of you.

May he Rest in Peace.

Thank you for reading the Monday Morning Mojo. PD was one of my most avid readers and I will miss his inspiring commentary.

 

 

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Jennifer Doane
Jennifer Doane
1 year ago

Your beautiful words about my Dad will be cherished by my family forever, much love.

Scott Rabin
Scott Rabin
1 year ago

I think about him often. He helped shape me as a human being. He will be greatly missed.

Geoff Gale
Geoff Gale
1 year ago

Truly eloquent words during a difficult time for all of us who knew and loved Paul. We are blessed to have been able to bask in the glow that was his life.

Jim Gradoville
Jim Gradoville
1 year ago

Beautiful and well done, Scotty. It’s clear, a lot of PD rubbed off on you – you are a rich man with a close family and a very large universe of friends, and people you touch kindly every day. I’m proud and lucky to have you as my friend.

Jim
… and, I love seeing those high school pictures of yours.

Gary Fisher
1 year ago

This is lovely Scott. I never knew Paul which is surprising given my involvement in Flint soccer for the first couple of decades of my life. But I saw his work. Great teams. Carman was such a tough rival of ours. I was honored to lead a moment of silence for him at the last Flint City Bucks game. WhT a life he led! Great post about a great man. If you want to come on my radio show to talk about him let me know.

Larry
Larry
1 year ago

Thank you for some wonderful memories of my friend Paul ….

Federico Kochlowski
Federico Kochlowski
1 year ago

I am deeply touched by this eulogy and tribute that speaks about the impact of PD in the lives of kids who learnt about soccer and about life, among them, a guy with a very big heart. Most important touching my heart are the “dash” and living “a life well lived”. How many moments we waste sometimes, forgetting what is true wealth in life.

Ilise
Ilise
1 year ago

Perfect 💜

Laura Smalley Linn
Laura Smalley Linn
1 year ago

Perfectly said, Scott. Thank you for speaking for all of us. We were lucky to have so many positive role models in our school system, of which Mr. Dresser was the best. May he rest in peace.

Chris (Hill) Burnside
Chris (Hill) Burnside
1 year ago

Scott,
If you are lucky in this thing we call life, you will get to meet people like Mr Dresser. We need more like him today. This was a perfect tribute. Thank you for sharing.
Chris

Rich Robinson
Rich Robinson
1 year ago

Beautiful post my friend!

Sheryl Biesman
Sheryl Biesman
1 year ago

Beautiful words to memorialize a man who touched more lives than he could ever know. Thank you for sharing!

Shari
Shari
1 year ago

He sounds like a terrific role model, friend, and family member. You have so many of his wonderful traits Scott. Thank you for sharing.

Muffy MacKenzie
Muffy MacKenzie
1 year ago

This is a beautiful and meaningful tribute Scotty. I remember Mr Dresser so vividly from elementary school. Always positive, always encouraging, always interested in how we were doing. Sending my love to his family, and to you as well.

Joyce Beach
Joyce Beach
11 months ago

Your MMM messages often bring tears to my eyes, this one especially. The Beach family admired Mr. Dresser, he left an indelible mark. Every now and then, Bo, Carole or Susy quote him. Thank you, Scott.

Jeff Dresser
Jeff Dresser
10 months ago

Scottie – I’m just now getting to this and your tribute, love, and class is so honoring to my dad! That you literally for all you have helped me with in life. He was so proud of you and I’m so great full for the heartfelt words everyone has shared throughout. He set the bar too high for me but a love him for it. Thanks so much Scott!

Karen Ruhala Amrhein
Karen Ruhala Amrhein
10 months ago

Thank you for sharing such beautiful messages on how to live with love in our hearts for others. It is a blessing to read your highlights about people all over the world who are caring for others.

Jeff Rosenthal
Jeff Rosenthal
8 months ago

I just started following MMM a few weeks ago and I just got through your eulogy.
It/you were right on point! Right in every way! Such a great heart felt tribute! I couldn’t make it to Flint that day, but PD and family were and will always be in my thoughts and prayers. Just as he was when I first had the privilege to meet him as I got my start in Flint Soccer. I think the thing I will miss most is his open hand to say hello (every time we/he made eye contact), that kind warm genuine smile and the fact that I cant ever remember an unkind word that ever came from his breath.
A true mensch!!

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